Supporting children

Jenni has been involved in the care and support of  many bereaved children and young people over the years.

"Bereaved children are often avoided  by adults who believe they need special skills to speak to them.  In truth, children want adults to be natural and normal. One young boy told me how much he minded that, after his Mum died, people treated him differently. They didn't say anything about her but kept ruffling his hair when they spoke to him!  The most helpful way to behave with children is to acknowledge their loss and say how you feel about the person dying. Children learn about grief by watching how adults behave." Jenni Thomas

Support for children through The Angus Lawson Memorial Trust

The Angus Lawson Memorial Trust was created by Kara and Nick Lawson in 2006 in memory of their son Angus. In 2010 Jenni was honoured to become a Patron.

Jenni is working with the Trust to offer support to families and prime carers with children and young people who have experienced loss.

Little girl by gateYou can request support for your child before, during, or after the death of a mother or father, a brother or sister, or important person in their life. It may be after an unexpected death, a sudden bereavement or a violent and traumatic death due to an accident or murder.

The situation of loss may be anticipated such as when a parent is not expected to live and needs guidance in how to communicate in an honest and helpful way with their child or children. (The workbook 'This Is About Me And You' is now available to download for free under Resources on this website).

You may want to talk about how best to communicate with a child born after the death of a sibling.

Requesting support

You can contact Jenni by completing the email contact form on this website.

Jenni will email you as soon as possible and arrange to speak to you on the phone to discuss what support you would find most helpful and how this might be arranged.

Ongoing support

Child walking along a pathA telephone support time can be booked on a day or evening that would suit you, or you can meet with Jenni, possibly at your home or a mutually agreed place. Consideration will be given to the child's situation within the context of his or her family. Initially a meeting will be arranged with the child or young person's parent or prime carer in a place that is convenient for the family.

The Lane End Conference centre in Buckinghamshire kindly offers facilities to Jenni for support sessions.

Parenting Skills Workshop

This workshop is designed for parents and prime carers to look at how to talk to children about loss before or after it happens.

If you are interested in participating in any of these groups or would like to find out a bit more about them then you can contact Jenni.

The Seeds of Hope Children's Garden

Children's GardenJenni is pleased to be working with her colleague, Caroline Jay, who founded the Seeds of Hope Children's Garden, a charity set up to help children and young people manage loss of all kinds through the use of nature and the cycle of life present in all living things. The Garden representing the four seasons is in Guildford in Surrey. There is an activity pack available for use with any open space anywhere in the world and an online memory meadow where children can plant a flower and write a message in memory of someone who has died. For more information please visit www.seedsofhopechildrensgarden.co.uk

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